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We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve

Recently on a weekend, when I had pretty much naught to do, I stumbled across the movie “The Perks of Being a Wallflower“.  If you haven’t watched the movie or read the book, I would really recommend you to do so. Most of the coming-of-age movies are clichéd and try too hard to fit in a plot. But this storyline chimes in with an unusually incisive, character-driven ramble through the inevitable awkwardness of teen life. The best part of the story for me was that it was timeless.


There were several moments when reading the book that the outside world ceased to invade my conscious thought and the epiphany that presented itself was so overwhelming that it struck a giant chord deep within me. Of all the lines, the ones that stuck with me is a piece of dialogue between the main character Charlie and Sam.

Sam: Why do I and everyone I love pick people who treat us like we’re nothing?
Charlie: We accept the love we think we deserve.

I think at times we settle for less than what we deserve because of the troublesome trait of undermining ourselves. We tend to undervalue our worth and hence try to make do with what we have. More often than not it is probably the fear of being alone that overpowers us to be in relationships we know well enough we don’t deserve .

On the other hand, I also feel it is only but natural to wait for something better and not have to settle for what’s convenient. The point is if you have high standards no one should criticize you for that, it shows that you are mature enough to value yourself to know what you want and that you respect yourself enough not to settle for anything less than that.

These two sides are constantly locked in a struggle. It often becomes very difficult to understand if we are expecting too much or if we indeed deserve more. This is when we need to put on our thinking caps. No one else, I mean no one else, will be able to help us with this. We need to clear our heads of any fairy tales/assumptions and think hard. What is it that I deserve? What is it that I want?

Confusing? Hell yeah. But it is never is easy is it? After all you do deserve a love that never ends. As do I 🙂

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It All Ends…

A decade and 8 movies later, the Potter-mania reached its conclusion on-screen with the final installment Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows : Part 2 being released. A final tempestuous battle between the good and the evil – a soulless villain and a 17 year old boy. With this, the fictional writer J.K.Rowling took a final bow, with this saga making her not only a millionaire but also a household name.

This movie captures the struggle of three 17 year olds set out to defeat the evilest of all villains (with almost no nose) – Lord Voldemort. The flashback of the usually menacing and evil Professor Snape was unexpectedly very touching. The final battle was indeed epic and well shot with liberal use of CGI as Hogwarts was set ablaze in the quest of eliminating evil from the world of magic once and for all.

Despite the stunning effects, there was a tinge of disappointment as the movie ended. As usual the plots that were not tied to the trio were neglected. Though the last movie was a better effort at trying to cover the entire story, for an avid fan there was always something missing in every movie. Warner Bros ALMOST nailed it. It is a known fact that the movies deviated a lot from the actual books. Probably it is unfair to expect the intricate and complex plot to be reproduced verbatim as the later books ran to hundreds of pages. But they could have gone in for a “Directors cut” like the LOTR.

All this apart, this movie does bring down the final curtains on the magical journey set forth since 1999 when Harry Potter and the Philosophers Stone was published. No more Quidditch, no more Defence against the Dark Arts and no more Avada Kedavra. All’s well that ends well and in this case with a lot of magic 🙂